My wife and I have been pretty stressed the last few months. We have taken in her nephew and went from having a 7 and 10yr old to having a 7/10/11yr old. Lots of changes. Some things haven't changed. We still have funky work schedules. We still have to make sure our children are attended to. We still are busy people. We do not see each other as much. We now have a third child to tend to and coordinate more activities. It has been a challenge.
The last couple weeks have been extra rough. Honestly not sure why. Maybe her work schedule? Worked 6/7 days at 12hr shifts 7pm to 7am. Then she was off for 8 or 9 days. She is on her fourth day right now of another 6/7 day work week. Our anniversary fell in between these two long work stretches. She scheduled this way because we generally get out of town. This year we couldn't because we had not foreseen the addition of another kid when she made her schedule months ago. This might be part of it as well.
We had a chat last night about things. Might have been more of a fight than a chat, but sometimes you have to stir some dust up to get to the bottom of things. Well, I figured I might do something to show her I DO listen to her and I am attentive to her needs. She has been bugging me to get some chickens. She claims she will take care of them. (Yeah right.) She has also been bugging for some "girly" rubber boots since all three kids and myself have them (mine and the boys' aren't girly. Just for clarification). Claims she will hit the woods with us in them and use them for garden and chicken chores. Soooo. . . tonight I was at Tractor Supply getting softener salt and food for the dogs and picked some up. Took them and the three kids to dinner, and dropped the boots off to her at the hospital. I picked up a card in the hospital lobby that was an "Encouragement" card. Picture of a baby with spaghetti on its head and a caption reading "Sometimes Life can get Messy" and I wrote a message on the inside. My words were "We can get through anything together. We have God. We have each other. Please feel free to use your new boots when the shit I am giving you gets too tall. Love, Phil"
Rolled out and got the kids' homework done and stuffed them in bed. She responded with a text stating she needed that and thanked me.
Just an idea for a little something for your wives. Some women need roses. Some women need expensive jewels. Some women like chocolates. Seems to me though, many women just want to be thought about now and then and made to feel like they are loved. A pair of pinkish purple chore boots with a card can go a long way. Who woulda thunk? lol
Hopefully someone reads this, remembers it, and wins some brownie points with their wife. Doesn't have to be rubber boots, but something is better than nothing. Might even get you some tail. ahah
The last couple weeks have been extra rough. Honestly not sure why. Maybe her work schedule? Worked 6/7 days at 12hr shifts 7pm to 7am. Then she was off for 8 or 9 days. She is on her fourth day right now of another 6/7 day work week. Our anniversary fell in between these two long work stretches. She scheduled this way because we generally get out of town. This year we couldn't because we had not foreseen the addition of another kid when she made her schedule months ago. This might be part of it as well.
We had a chat last night about things. Might have been more of a fight than a chat, but sometimes you have to stir some dust up to get to the bottom of things. Well, I figured I might do something to show her I DO listen to her and I am attentive to her needs. She has been bugging me to get some chickens. She claims she will take care of them. (Yeah right.) She has also been bugging for some "girly" rubber boots since all three kids and myself have them (mine and the boys' aren't girly. Just for clarification). Claims she will hit the woods with us in them and use them for garden and chicken chores. Soooo. . . tonight I was at Tractor Supply getting softener salt and food for the dogs and picked some up. Took them and the three kids to dinner, and dropped the boots off to her at the hospital. I picked up a card in the hospital lobby that was an "Encouragement" card. Picture of a baby with spaghetti on its head and a caption reading "Sometimes Life can get Messy" and I wrote a message on the inside. My words were "We can get through anything together. We have God. We have each other. Please feel free to use your new boots when the shit I am giving you gets too tall. Love, Phil"
Rolled out and got the kids' homework done and stuffed them in bed. She responded with a text stating she needed that and thanked me.
Just an idea for a little something for your wives. Some women need roses. Some women need expensive jewels. Some women like chocolates. Seems to me though, many women just want to be thought about now and then and made to feel like they are loved. A pair of pinkish purple chore boots with a card can go a long way. Who woulda thunk? lol
Hopefully someone reads this, remembers it, and wins some brownie points with their wife. Doesn't have to be rubber boots, but something is better than nothing. Might even get you some tail. ahah
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