I know every one of my kids are different so there is no "one size fits all" parenting idea but I am struggling with something with my oldest.
He's 12, smart, but I swear I cannot get him to think and actually put forth more than the bare minimum effort on things. Or he just blows through something without "caring" what the end result is until the half assed result gets him into trouble. IF we stay on him he does well but at what point will I no longer have to shove my foot up his ass to actually get some results? Or is it an age thing?
Examples:
He messed up a math test by going too fast and skipped 2 whole pages of the damn thing.
He doesn't take the time to check his homework and misses points on dumb mistakes.
He routinely has to do his basic chores (dishes, taking garbage out, etc) 2x before he gets it done to his mother or my standard.
I don't have enough hair to tear out and I'm at a loss.
Help?
He's 12, smart, but I swear I cannot get him to think and actually put forth more than the bare minimum effort on things. Or he just blows through something without "caring" what the end result is until the half assed result gets him into trouble. IF we stay on him he does well but at what point will I no longer have to shove my foot up his ass to actually get some results? Or is it an age thing?
Examples:
He messed up a math test by going too fast and skipped 2 whole pages of the damn thing.
He doesn't take the time to check his homework and misses points on dumb mistakes.
He routinely has to do his basic chores (dishes, taking garbage out, etc) 2x before he gets it done to his mother or my standard.
I don't have enough hair to tear out and I'm at a loss.
Help?