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"Absent companions"

Stressless

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Some members of the military have a tradition: you celebrate the death of a comrade with a drink and the simple toast "absent companions." I've made this tradition my own, I'm never happy to perform it.

.But.

I think there's a place here to raise the toast when news of one of our brothers falls. I learned of my friends oldest son passing just this evening as I was returning from camp. My friend passed from lung cancer in 2019 both were some of the very few that that I've invited to my "lodge".

Funny, I've thought about what to call the actual place that I built and where I sleep. Had a delivery just this Wednesday from the local co-op and the young'ish driver said to the fella that had stopped about 500' into the drive looking for my place, "oh the lodge is another 1000' further...." well, I think it'll stick. Not a proper lodge in today's standard but well put out for a 1940's Lodge.

... I digress/

Cliff was Dean's son. Dean was my wartime compadre, Deployments 1996-2012 and doing digital death- totally another story - that's Dean helping plant the damn dam Nov 2015. He's from Ft Walton Beach so this is litearly his experince with actual straw.
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I had Dean up hunting, twice, and Cliff, he's a police officer adn a huge outdoorsman, he's telling me after the family gets together on holiday, Dean is always talking about the "lodge" and how I'm trying to make it better, and me getting Dean into Kayak fishin' etc...

So Dean asks, all low key, in 2016 if Cliff, his oldest can come up an hunt the Lodge. I'm like ya man - so 2016 Cliff does this to t he biggest most uniqe buck taken at the lodge.

So Cliff, who's hunted his adult life comes up with his dad that had only crossbow hunted two years and Cliff harpoons his biggest deer.

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Dean Cliff butchering their first deer together...
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Well, Just got news in this evening that Cliff passed today, 9/11, 2021. He was a deputy sheriff in Tallahassee and his illness was CoVid. Three kids, under 14.

Dean had passed in 2019.... but that din't keep Cliff away he came up and helped clear out Spoil and SkiJump...

So I'm sitting here in a bit of {_______} sipping a bullet rye and just needed to say these were a couple of salt of the earth, hard working, joyful folks I've opened up to in quite a few years... and they're gone.

Please add your...

"Absent companions"
 
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finelyshedded

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So sorry to hear this!!! My most heart felt condolences to you and your absent companions, they sounded like true friends. 🍻 😞🙏
 

Stressless

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2nd dads, a man that you need in your boisterous age when a elder man imprints wise counsel in way that resonates and leaves you better.

That was Lanny Hawkins, my lifelong friend Chris's father. Just back to camp tonight from escorting my other buddy Lou's 82 yo mom and my 92 yo mom thru his service and then internment in Glenmont. They, the parents, all ran around together as couples while we hooligans gave them premature gray hair.

Lanny was a good, kind gentleman that truly enjoyed the outdoors and shared that with his son Chris and the other boys/young men in that family's halo of love.

Toasting those second dad's and remembing those poignant lessons that helped me become a better man. God called a good one home Wednesday.

*Absent companions*

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hickslawns

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Dang it. Been a rough year for some of us in this department. Lost one of those men this year as well. As close to a second father as he could be. I was closer to him than some of my actual uncles. My kids grew up calling him "Uncle Russ." Sorry. Not trying to take away from your moment of appreciation for the fine man you described. Just saying "I get it. I'm sorry to hear it." RIP Lanny
 

Stressless

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Mom.

I feel a duty has been lifted from my shoulders by Jesus, just me for her after Bill died in '12. She's at peace and I am relieved of mom duty. She had an incredibly wonderful life.

She was 93, she was my last family member living. No family horizontal or up at this point, they have all passed on. As I described to a lifelong friend of mine, Big Lou, a retired Force Recon Marine. lt feels like I'm in command again... leading the family, kids, grandkids etc under me.

She did great for almost all of her 93 years and only in the last couple months starting failing in body and mind. I left FL to be with her when she entered Hospice in North Canton just before Thanksgiving and stayed for her in OH until she passed 8 Jan and I got the necessary paperwork done. Came home a few days ago.

Dad was a white hat and Mom was a AF officer (Nurse) Just like the good old movies where a good guy enlisted dude (Jack) gets the beautiful nurse (Dolores) to fall for him, they were together for 57 years until dad passed.
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She loved the wildfowers at the farm and would take "woods walks" with us and her grandkids, naming and pointing out all manner of flora with delight and wonder in her eyes. Mom put her love of green and growing things into deeds as she was Greentown Garden Club President, 1974, 1975, 1993, 1994, she was also an officer of the Canton Garden Center (1993-1998), serving as President in 1998 and had been a member of the Executive Board since 1998.

Mom's unconditional love is one of life's true treasures that the family was blessed with. One of the last pics of us.

I salute you mom, Bravo Zulu.
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Obituary for Dolores Ruby Boston https://www.beaconjournal.com/obituaries/pwoo1058292
 
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