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"Absent companions"

Stressless

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Some members of the military have a tradition: you celebrate the death of a comrade with a drink and the simple toast "absent companions." I've made this tradition my own, I'm never happy to perform it.

.But.

I think there's a place here to raise the toast when news of one of our brothers falls. I learned of my friends oldest son passing just this evening as I was returning from camp. My friend passed from lung cancer in 2019 both were some of the very few that that I've invited to my "lodge".

Funny, I've thought about what to call the actual place that I built and where I sleep. Had a delivery just this Wednesday from the local co-op and the young'ish driver said to the fella that had stopped about 500' into the drive looking for my place, "oh the lodge is another 1000' further...." well, I think it'll stick. Not a proper lodge in today's standard but well put out for a 1940's Lodge.

... I digress/

Cliff was Dean's son. Dean was my wartime compadre, Deployments 1996-2012 and doing digital death- totally another story - that's Dean helping plant the damn dam Nov 2015. He's from Ft Walton Beach so this is litearly his experince with actual straw.
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I had Dean up hunting, twice, and Cliff, he's a police officer adn a huge outdoorsman, he's telling me after the family gets together on holiday, Dean is always talking about the "lodge" and how I'm trying to make it better, and me getting Dean into Kayak fishin' etc...

So Dean asks, all low key, in 2016 if Cliff, his oldest can come up an hunt the Lodge. I'm like ya man - so 2016 Cliff does this to t he biggest most uniqe buck taken at the lodge.

So Cliff, who's hunted his adult life comes up with his dad that had only crossbow hunted two years and Cliff harpoons his biggest deer.

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Dean Cliff butchering their first deer together...
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Well, Just got news in this evening that Cliff passed today, 9/11, 2021. He was a deputy sheriff in Tallahassee and his illness was CoVid. Three kids, under 14.

Dean had passed in 2019.... but that din't keep Cliff away he came up and helped clear out Spoil and SkiJump...

So I'm sitting here in a bit of {_______} sipping a bullet rye and just needed to say these were a couple of salt of the earth, hard working, joyful folks I've opened up to in quite a few years... and they're gone.

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"Absent companions"
 
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finelyshedded

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So sorry to hear this!!! My most heart felt condolences to you and your absent companions, they sounded like true friends. 🍻 😞🙏
 

Stressless

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Keene, OH
2nd dads, a man that you need in your boisterous age when a elder man imprints wise counsel in way that resonates and leaves you better.

That was Lanny Hawkins, my lifelong friend Chris's father. Just back to camp tonight from escorting my other buddy Lou's 82 yo mom and my 92 yo mom thru his service and then internment in Glenmont. They, the parents, all ran around together as couples while we hooligans gave them premature gray hair.

Lanny was a good, kind gentleman that truly enjoyed the outdoors and shared that with his son Chris and the other boys/young men in that family's halo of love.

Toasting those second dad's and remembing those poignant lessons that helped me become a better man. God called a good one home Wednesday.

*Absent companions*

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hickslawns

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Dang it. Been a rough year for some of us in this department. Lost one of those men this year as well. As close to a second father as he could be. I was closer to him than some of my actual uncles. My kids grew up calling him "Uncle Russ." Sorry. Not trying to take away from your moment of appreciation for the fine man you described. Just saying "I get it. I'm sorry to hear it." RIP Lanny