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You can't let it take over your life.... You learn and move on hoping too never repeat the same mistake....
It happened January 3rd of last year and we went on our honeymoon May 5th in Roatan. To say it didn't take a man up gut check to get in the water and snorkle out 300 yards from shore would be a lie. I struggled with it for a while, and Jessica's dad still gets a little choked up if it comes up. We all had a different situations to deal with that day and the emotions weren't the same for each of us. For me it was a fight for life. For him it was a fight to save his daughters fiancée. I had to deal with a high probability of death, he had to deal with that and the thought of the things that come afterwards like telling his daughter, a life of feeling like he could have done more, regret etc. It was actually more traumatizing and took longer for him than it did me. We can joke about it now but it's still an emotional subject if we dwell on it past that. Needless to say I have a pretty tight bond with my FIL and nephew. But you're right, you can't dwell on it and let it consume you. Learn from it and move on. I can say it humbled me considerably, especially in mother nature. That bitch doesn't care if you live or die, and all it takes is a one simple oversight for shit to get bad in a hurry.